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I see YOU - Do YOU miss YOU?

you saw you there.

That’s when you knew

you were born to be with you

When good love shines

Take you with you.

Sail into the sun – the darkness – Move into YOU

Love – You – Compassion – and Trust in Yourself.

Following your heart it is not the easiest thing to do.

Exploring your authentic self can be a bit edgy…

That is why LOVE leads… Yes I fucking capitalized LOVE. Try it on!

Self-love is the unconditional love and respect YOU have for yourself that is so unwavering that YOU only choose loving, respectful situations and relationships, including the one with yourself. Self Love is a Path, a Practice and a Choice YOU make everyday in your relationships, work, health, wealth, home, everything - Good, bad or indifferent.

This time, not by proving my value, but by practicing self-love. Below are some of the most powerful ways I’ve discovered to do just that:

Place attention on being someone who loves.

If you’re in a place today where you don’t love yourself it’s hard to take a quantum leap and become someone who does. Just like when you’re building muscles, self-love takes consistent practice. It’s incremental.

Instead of loving yourself, focus on being someone who loves. That is, allow love to flow through you as often as possible. Focus on what you love about the people you meet. Focus on what you appreciate while going to the store, sitting in a meeting, or while speaking to someone. Simply, adjust your body to positive emotions by finding as many things to love and appreciate as possible.

Connect into what it looks and feels like to be loved.

Is it easy for you to love yourself? Can it be easy to be loving to ourselves when things go as planned, when we succeed and people like us. Not so much when stuff falls apart, we screw up or get rejected. When we battle the most, that’s also when we tend to be hardest on ourselves.

In those moments, ask yourself how someone who loves you deeply you would act. What would they say? What would they do? How would they behave? Odds are, they wouldn’t criticize, judge, and berate you. They’d offer you kindness, compassion, and acceptance. If you can’t think about a specific person or memory, visualize how the most loving human on this planet would be toward you. Then practice being that toward yourself.

Discontinue comparing yourself.

Comparison is a killer to self-love. And we aren’t usually very nice when it comes to comparisons, right? Fuck social media. Let it go all it does is breed insecurity and anxiety.

I see it all the time; people take their greatest flaws and compare them to someone else’s greatest success. In short, you’re doomed to fail.

Instead, realize that you write your story. Realize that you can’t compare your life to someone else’s because no matter how well you know them, you never know how they feel or how they perceive their life. Instead, spend your time and energy to nourish and build your path.

Take incremental path, GROW SLOW, to create the life you long for.

Desires are powerful. And so, to take action turn those dreams into reality is to honor and care for yourself. By taking incremental actions, you hint that you’re worthy of living the life you wish.

It doesn’t have to be big action—just small and consistent steps in the direction that stirs joy, care, and excitement. This demonstrates that you care and respect your dreams and thus yourself. Has there ever been a better time to do that than now?

Be humble. It’s ok to ask your allies for help.

Imagine that you have a table of allies full of guidance and tools to support you. Now also visualize emotions are guiding you too. When you feel good about yourself, it means that what you’re thinking is aligned with how your soul/higher self sees you. When you feel bad about yourself, it’s a red flag telling you that a change of perspective is needed. It’s ok to ask for help, support or suggestions from your allies. Think about all the people dead and here, spirits beyond that can provide you direction.

Being open, being humble to help is Love.

do YOU miss it?

Are YOU able to really say that YOU don’t miss LOVE, miss the connection and find comfort in the doing? Or Doing not doing! That passive, gentle feeling YOU find in the ease Love can also be. Can I ask YOU? When was the last time YOU really felt, thought and connected to easy, free flowing LOVE…

That’s it… Think about it… Feel it and express it… LOVE – First onto yourself and then let it flow into the world YOU live in…


Dr. Ryan Westrum is a psychologist and trained psychedelic integration specialist, the author of The Psychedelics Integration Handbook and creator of The Psychedelic Psychologist.

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