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Weekend Sexperiment: Happy Fall Equinox Enjoying Symbiotic Love

Fall Equinox

  • The daylight and evening is equal in time.

  • Reflects a movement into the northern hemisphere transitioning to winter. (Great time for Hibernating! Or Sexperiments!


  • Involving interaction between two different organisms living in close physical association.

  • Denoting a mutually beneficial relationship between different people or groups.

Healing Souls Sexperiment

  • Safe, Sane and Consensual sexual exploration with your partner.

This weeks Healing Souls Sexperiment is to exchange your love, intimacy and desire with your partner. I want to offer you the chance to share your likes, and passion with your partner in the form of what drives you wild in the bedroom.

So you might think I am stretching it here, but bare with me for a minute, The Fall Equinox is all about transitions and starting new. It is also about the idea we have equal light and darkness; it is the day that is mutually balancing both.

I love the word symbiotic, like a bee and a flower, they are mutually independent of each other and yet they both interact as interdependent with each other to create pollination of other flowers and making honey. I just love the mutual respect they have for each other.

So in the honor of both the Fall Equinox and the word Symbiotic, this weekend’s sexperiment is to be authentic with your desires. Be confident in asking for what you want, this can be either sexually or emotionally.

And as always it must be safe, sane, and consensual.

Examples I want you to consider….

Maybe you love a certain thing when it comes to sex that your partner isn’t too open with….

A fantastic way to be mutual and symbiotic is to start having a conversation and let them know why it is so interesting to you. By talking about it, your partner might get clarity around what you love about it.

Or… You might not get enough returned favors…

I hear it often. My partner is a selfish lover; they never do anything that makes me feel special in bed. In the vain of equality here is a great chance to ask for what you need.

I want you to stop reading this article right now! Think about what turns you on the most! What is it? When is the last time you got it? So what are you waiting for? As for it now!

Lastly, Do you hesitate to do what your partner loves doing? Is there something you don’t understand why they enjoy doing this or that?

Exactly, this is the time for you to be symbiotic, equal, mutual, what a great opportunity to build a foundation understanding why your lover wants what they want. Simply by asking them what, why and how they see sexual and emotional intimacy will connect you on such a deeper level.

Enjoy your first fall weekend!

Dr. Ryan Westrum is a sex positive therapist that is striving to rekindle and teach healthy sexuality. You can contact him at or by phone at 952.261.5269. Complementary consultations are available by scheduling online at

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