What if studying tantra could heal our addiction to Porn? What if tapping into our natural abilities to experience ecstasy changes everything? Emotional connection, Physical connection and above all else a spiritual connection that could heal many different projections people hold against not only porn, but sex as well.
See tantra is on a micro continuum within a larger continuum of sex, which has BDSM, porn, vanilla sex, and everything else that the human mind can imagine. So what would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no. My goal is to offer a space and time where people can create what they want as a sexual life potentially that which they have viewed through pornography and turn it into a healthy lifestyle exempt from shame, guilt and the darkness that sex has as a stigma.
I thought to myself, Do you realize what you’re offering people? Tantra is essentially the OPPOSITE of porn. Once I realized this, I never looked back!
Porn is a funny thing. Despite some opinions, I believe that it isn’t inherently evil. Lots of people truly enjoy watching porn, including many couples that use it together to have a new experience. Yet it is seemingly undeniable that there are some real dark sides to porn.
Besides the obvious violence and anything involving children, there are much more insidious issues:
What We Look Like Is Everything
Porn focuses on being stimulated through the body. And so we are subconsciously told that sexuality be contingent on what your body looks like. You must be young, fit, have perky breasts and a large penis, otherwise you can’t be a good lover. And paradoxically this sets up a enormous self-worth issue in everyone, particularly those who don’t see themselves as young, fit and perky. And for the ones that do, they still quite often don’t see themselves as perky or big enough. Ultimately, no one leaves happy with themselves.
It’s All About Successfully Pleasuring The Other
Porn focuses on pleasing the other. Now obviously there is some part of us deep down that knows that the desire to please our partner is actually a wonderful thing. But that isn’t usually how it comes across in porn. It comes across as the only thing that is important. That bringing the other person to orgasm is the only goal. And what’s wrong with that you ask? Well it is the message that our unconscious receives, that this is the only goal of lovemaking. That if you can’t bring your partner to orgasm, then there is no point making love. We end up with things like performance anxiety on both the giver and the receiver side.
Connection & Intimacy Aren’t Important
Porn has nothing to do with connection. It is simply a series of physical events that two people do together. There is no connection or intimacy. And this isn’t always bad, sometimes a round of rockin’ porn sex can be fun, but again it sends programming to our subconscious that this is what sex is about. That the connection doesn’t matter and it’s just about getting off is the goal to sex.