It’s not a lack of love that makes a relationship monotonous; it’s a lack of passion. This
weekend’s sexperiment will help you put the passion back where it belongs…and take your relationship where it needs to be!
My suggestion for this lovely weekend is a 24 hour bed in. Of Course get out to grab food and such!! You will need it! We all know the story of Yoko Ono and John Lennon’s Bed In for peace, their idea was to arise awareness for peace and fight the war. I’d like to offer my own fight against the war on boring relationships. Let’s look at putting aside our weekend responsibilities and reconnect with the passion in bed. The following are great ideas to rekindle the spark in your passion. Everything from using our 5 senses, music playlists or blindfolds, erotic massages to hours of lovemaking or cuddle time. The best part of 24 hours in bed is you and your partner will have nothing to get in the way of intense connection!
Client’s come in and continuously look at me for direction on how to spice up a weekend. Maybe the kids are gone, a desire to celebrate an anniversary, or just wanting to learn more about each other. The one key factor in rejuvenating or creating your sexual appetite is to practice, try something new and get comfortable in your skin with your partner.
Notice something new about your partner
During your 24 hours in bed make it an effort to notice something new about your partner, try to learn something new about their body, the way they move, the way they sound, the way they touch. It’s a great way to connect without asking directly. By starting to use other senses then just verbal communication you and your partner will not only get turned on and ramp up the heat, it’s also a great way to find a deeper sense of knowing. So give it a chance start caressing them and watch their body, and if you need to ask what they like don’t hesitate to do just that.
I’ve mentioned adding all your senses by touching, smelling and watching. Now take one away. Over the course of 24 hours in bed, turn out the lights and put on a blindfold. Nothing beats making love, getting massaged and before you know it you have transcended to another place and are learning to feel your partner more deeply. When one takes a sense away the other perceptions are elevated. By putting on a blindfold your feelings, smells and the intensity increases, let alone it’s a great way to build trust over the course of your sexperiment.. The key is don’t forget to share the experience; you can both be blindfolded or just one of you. There are no rules just fun, and when you pull back the blindfold and see your beloved, you know your in the right place!
Marvin Gaye to Sade the lists are endless
Don’t forget to set the soundtrack to 24 hours of bedtime! The energy will shift the music you play. Many couple like to have different music. You and your partner switch off, have fun, play music you like play music that is out of your comfort zone. By switching the beat you switch the mood. Relax there is no wrong way to play with music.
24 hours in bed can sound intense but remember your partner and you can create a time to eat, shower and play however you would like to. The important part is to feel safe, feel loved and have fun. Passion is found in getting back to learning about you and your lover.
Ryan Westrum is a sex therapist at healingsoulsllc.com you can contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org or 952-261-5269.